Today, I wanted to share a personal story. A story that made all the difference.
Like you, I was at a point in my life where something had to give.
I knew I wanted something bigger and better for my life. Something that involved doing something I loved. Something that involved making a positive impact in the lives of others.
For so long I had helped friends and family with their wardrobe dilemmas. Doing this not only made me feel alive, but helped them feel like they could conquer the world.
And every time I would help them get to where they wanted to be, I would think to myself, “Is this something I can actually do all of the time?”
Over time that soft question became louder and louder, to the point that I couldn’t shake it any longer.
I realized helping others look and feel great through clothes is what I could do to make this world a better place.
But it never failed, every time my excitement reached new levels of courage, the dreaded “What if’s” came knocking…
“What if people think I’m a fraud because I don’t have any certifications?”
“What if people think I should style a celebrity first to prove I know what I’m doing?”
“What if people think that finding clothes at Target or JC Penny or Marshall’s isn’t cool enough?”
“What if I put myself out there and completely fail?”
Despite all of the “What If’s”, my heart’s voice was louder and, to be frank, I was sick and tired of being so wishy-washy with this idea of actually becoming a personal stylist.
So one Saturday morning, I opened up my laptop and wrote and email to a small group of people who I love and trust to help me with sound feedback. This group included my parents, brother, my three best friends and my previous boss.
Here’s what the email said…
I’m writing today because I’m thinking of taking a big leap and need to run it by you to make sure I’m going in the right direction.
Since being at home with Matthew and Ethan, I’ve had the chance to be around other stay-at-home-mamas who have consistently asked me for advice on where to shop for clothes and how to put things together.
On several occasions, they’ve expressed that they would happily pay me to take them shopping to the stores I go to and show them how to put together new clothes with the items they already have in their closets.
This got me thinking…
Could I possibly start a business where I can show women where to shop, help them find clothes at those stores, then show them how to put it all together?
While the thought of being an entrepreneur excites me I am also scared to put myself out there.
I’m seeking your opinion to help me make a decision, so here it is…
Do you think I should move forward in starting a business that shows women where to shop, how to find clothes at stores, then help them make sense of clothes, shoes, and accessories?
I cant express how grateful I am to have you in my life and be able to share my idea with you and get your opinion. I know you would only want the best for me and will give it to me straight.
All my love,
Here are the replies I received…
“Go for it! Dude, what’s taken you so long?” – Diana, bff
“Uh, yeah. Isn’t that what you’ve been doing for me since birth!” – Martin, brother
“Michelle, there is no doubt in my mind that once you set your mind on any venture…you will find a way to succeed. After sharing your idea with Paty, she was excited to know that there will be someone she knows and trusts to help her with shopping (she hates it!). She also thought of at least six other women who she could immediately refer you to. So there you have it, a market is already available for you to serve.” – Edgar, previous manager/eternal business mentor
“My sweet daughter, your life has been waiting for this moment. Run and don’t stop. – Lupita, mom/eternal cheerleader
The feedback I received from those I loved and trusted most was the confirmation and motivation I needed to learn how to get started and GO FOR IT!
This weekend, I want to encourage you to open your email, and send a similar message to those you love and trust the most.
If your heart is stirring the way mine was to help others make sense of shopping and wearing clothes, this could easily be the final step you need to take to confirm things for you and take the next steps to learn how to get out there and GO FOR IT.
Love, style and confidence,
P.S. Will you do me a favor? I would love to know what type of response you received from your family and friends. You can email me at email@example.com